The gynecologist told me I had HPV
Some history : I’m a virgin. I have never done anything that would have logically led to my contracting HPV, but I have somehow. I have had it for years, but did not learn what it was until a few months ago. Since I had never had sex, I assumed the bump I had was a skin tag of some sort. And for years, there was only one bump. But about 6 months ago, I noticed that more, very small, bumps were appearing.
The gynecologist told me I had HPV. I freaked out, horrified, especially since I have no clue in the world how or from whom I contracted the virus. Anyway, a few weeks later, I met a guy at a party. We talked for a little while and really hit it off, and exchanged numbers. For the next couple of months he kept calling and seemed to really like me. I was really starting to like him too, and didn’t wanna blow a good thing, so we saw each other for one more day before the summer ended before we both left for college. Well, the day we spent together was AMAZING. He is the most amazing guy I’ve ever met, and we’re both really stuck on each other. He goes to school in New Jersey (where we both live) but I go to school in Virginia, and he’s driving down in two days to spend the weekend with me – he’s really taking this thing seriously, and so am I.
But here’s my dilemma : He knows I’m a virgin. It came up in conversation. It turns out he’s a virgin too. Seeing as we’re both virgins, I know he’s assuming that I’m totally clean and virus-free.
And the fact that he’s a virgin at 21 shows me that his standards are high, so I don’t think he’s gonna be unfazed by an STD… From a guy’s point of view – would you react better if a girl fessed up in the beginning of the relationship? I’m waiting until marriage to have sex, so it’s not like a *should-we-have-sex* conversation is gonna come up where I can confess this. How long should I wait to tell him? A few months? A year? Till he wants a commitment? Till he loves me? Is it better to be up-front and honest quickly? Or till he’s attached enough to me that he’ll find it harder to leave me? =\
I’m so afraid of losing him over this, I don’t want to screw it up. I need men’s opinions of what the best way to go about this is…
Thanks, guys =\