do i tell my new partner about HPV?
I just found out 3 days ago that I have HPV. I have no warts but the cells on my cervix have changed. No cancer was detected! My doctor recommends cyro. I’m fine with that. My main problem is how do I tell my partner? We’ve been talking for a little over a month and have had sex 1 time with a condom. we did have oral sex but my dr. said he wouldn’t get it because I don’t have warts. Should I tell him? I feel embarresed and ashamed. I know I shouldn’t because so many people have HPV. I don’t know if this friendship is serious or not. He knows my friends and I don’t want him to tell them or be mad at me. I feel alone and scared for any future relationships. Will anyone ever want me again?
I have been where you are. You will have to live with this no matter what. I came as close to death the other day in a near fatal car accident. I was really depressed up untill that point. I could have died! This disease can not control you. I am glad to have a second chance. Tell this guy, ask him to keep this between you and him. For all you know it is not strain 6 or 11 and he will never develope warts.
If you are going to continue seeing him, be truthful. option 2 don’t tell him, you used protection, and hope for the best. I know what it feels like for people to know! It can be even more devestating when everyone in town knows your dirty little secret.
Hi there, would like to say something, he may never develop warts, but he may (which I think it is worst) pass the cancer type of HPV to someone he may love in the future. Since u r saying it is not a serious relationship, just let him go and dont tell him anything, or stay with him and tell him what u have.
If they only had sex once, Protected, he probably didn’t contract anything. Don’t jump to conclusions. Only 4 of 80 strains have been linked to cancer.
It’s a tough call. I didn’t have any warts either but I chose to tell the man I thought I had a serious relationship with and he ran. part of me wishes I hadn’t said anything, but I couldn’t let him unknowingly give it to someone else in the future. I know I did the “right thing” but that doesn’t make living with the result any easier. He wasn’t a jerk about things, he just couldn’t handle it.
Good luck, my heart goes out to you.
I feel the same way. It’s hard to have to put yourself out there on a tight rope like that when you have no idea if it gonna be serious or not. I know I should tell the other person but at the same time I feel ashamed and not normal. It almost makes me feel that when I tell them the relationship is some how tainted and that it can no longer be “normal” whatever that is. Who knows. I hate that life is naturally compicated but then to have to throw this in the mix? It puts a damper on things thats for sure. Good Luck, I know alot of is need it!!!
There is no reason to feel embarrassment or shame. HPV is the most common STI out there, and the majority of sexually active women have been exposed to it at least once! i dont have warts either, just cervical dysplasia. i had to get a cervical biopsy and thank God it came back ok… i am engaged and my fiancee knows about my HPV. i have no warts ::knock on wood:: so the chances of transmission are almost none! this is a skin-to-skin thing, not fluid exchange… to be respectful i would tell your new partner. even though most men dont know that they have it, i wish whatever guy gave it to me (if he knew) wouldve said something to me..good luck